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Haters.

Monday, January 23, 2012

I'm feeling good about my training. I'm feeling good about where I am and how I'm doing. I feel good about my body -- where it's at, and how much I'm about to put it through. 

Naturally, this has brought out some haters. 

Let's discuss haters. Haters are people who bring negativity to your positive party. They say mean things. Sometimes these comments are disguised with playful teasing, but they're mean nonetheless. 

I don't know why these people emerge, but they do. These people pop out with their negative comments and attitudes. Most of the time, they're unwarranted or uninvolved and yet they still throw in their two cents. These are not people adding constructive criticism or talking about themselves -- they are people who talk about you in order to drop you down a notch (or five). 

Case in point: I am working my @$$ off, quite literally. Today, someone gave me a compliment on how I looked. It was genuine and sweet and something that was very nice and made me really happy in that moment. But three seconds later, someone nearby retorted back with a negative comment about how things like these comments would go right to my head (because, yes, OBVIOUSLY I have an inflated self-image). Yes, I know I'm 28-years-old, but it still hurts my feelings when people say negative things, whether they're trying to be funny or not. It wasn't funny. It was mean. And it was unnecessary. 

I've tried to figure out why people say these mean things. Here is what I've come up with.
1. They are unhappy with their own lives.
2. They are jealous. 
3. They are mean-spirited people. 
4. They are so used to hearing negativity, they spout it out without realizing it. 

In this instance, I think it was number 4. And it makes me sad for this person. I know I'm not the queen of positivity, but I do try to encompass an optimistic attitude, especially when it comes to others. 

So, here are my positive words of the day. If you're training for something right now, tell yourself you can do it. You CAN do it. And you WILL do it. Keep your chin up and your nose to the grindstone. Regardless of what anyone else says, you can do this. There are enough negative voices out there working against you. Remember to be a positive one so you hear at least one a day. 

And if you're not training for something, you're pretty awesome too, damnit. Don't you forget it! 

Oh, and, what did I do when that hater said that to me? I just smiled. Because I know myself well enough to know that those comments won't go to my head. And I hope she had a fabulous day. :) 

6 comments:

  1. Great attitude! You can do it & you're about to prove it & maybe you should wear your medal for a week after you get it...lol :)

    I've been posting my workout on FB when I'm done (in the morning before I go to work). I've heard some comments too & I don't give a rats :) Not really mean but not very positive. It's OK, to each his own. I post to keep myself accountable & hopefully to inspire someone else to get off the couch. If they don't, that's OK too. I'm like you - very happy with where I'm at, happy with my training & happy with where my plan is headed. I've also lost 12 lbs. so that is awesome. I'm chasing my dream & I'm the only one who can make it happen.

    You keep running & keep spreading joy! And most of all, never stop being the caring, wonderful person you are :)

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  2. Awesome blog topic A! Debbie downers are the worst!!! Sometimes you can walk into a room cheerful and someone can drag you down in a second and before you know it, your cranky and don't even know why!!! My daddy taught me that a positive attitude will take me far in life. He was right and so are you! You deserve every compliment you get and who cares if it goes to your head! YOU deserve it!! Love you long time!

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  3. Sherry, I'm sorry you're dealing with the haters too! Another friend of mine emailed me about this today too, so apparently haters are everywhere! And I agree -- I write my blog for me and for anyone else who takes an interest in it. If people don't like it, they won't read it, and that's fine too!

    J, poppa Frank has the right idea -- positive attitude is everything! YOU, for instance, and are one of the most positive people I know, and that makes all the difference to me!

    Thank you both for your awesome support! I promise to give the same to you too!

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  4. As I read this posting, I started humming Destiny's Child's I'm a Survivor! You took a negative & worked it into a positive! The work place is a difficult area to find cheerlearders, but an ideal location for haters & cynicism. I'm not the essence of positivity, but adhere the old standard: if you don't have anything nice to say, keep it to yourself. Angela, keep up the your devotion to a healthy body & mind!

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  5. LOVE that song, Patty! I agree -- the Golden Rule should be followed at all times! I'm just going to stay on the positive bus. :)

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